The gay and lesbian dating scene, like any other, can be full of many pitfalls that lead to a relationship disaster. Below I will go over five tips that I believe can give your lesbian relationship a better chance of making it past those pitfalls.
1. Know and be open about your dating intentions.It is important to know what you want out of a relationship and make your intentions clear from the beginning. If you are not looking for a long term relationship don’t act like you are. Misleading people and lying is the number one way to ruin a relationship. You never know, you may not think you are ready for a long term relationship and meet someone great that you end up falling in love with. If you are honest upfront the other person should respect you for that weather it lasts or not.
2. Make quality time for each other. In this fast paced world that we live in their are tons of distractions. In order to make a quality connection and really get to know someone you need to drown out the noise. When on a date try and leave your cell phone in the car. Nothing is more annoying than trying to talk to someone while they are preoccupied with their cell phone or any other communication device. Focus on your date and enjoy the time with her.
3. Listen to your partners needs and know yours. Many people go into relationships not know what makes them happy or not being willing to stand up for things that make them happy. You need to know what it is going to take to make you happy with someone and don’t settle for less. At the same time it is very important to LISTEN to your partner and make note of what makes them happy. If you are someone that needs some alone time to keep your head clear then let them know that up front and hopefully they will respect that. At the same time they will know what is going on when you tell them that you need to be alone.
4. Live in the now and not in the past. Everyone has a past. Some people have more skeletons in their closet than others. If you want to have any chance at a relationship you need to go in with an open mind and be willing to truly get to know the person. We all make mistakes and if you go looking for a flaw in someone you are probably going to find one. So enjoy the time with the person and focus on your relationship.
5. Find things you both enjoy doing. Now you are probably not going to like all the same things, but try to find some stuff you enjoy doing together. This can lead to great memories and building a strong bond. Remember that you should be willing to compromise and participate in things she might like that maybe you don’t so much. She should appreciate that and will probably do the same for you. If there is something that she likes to do and you don’t then give her the freedom to do those things on her own and support this time she has doing something that makes her happy.
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